Yes, I had the easiest pregnancy ever (not trying to brag). Yes, it is possible for pregnancy to be enjoyable!
I never had morning sickness, I never had crazy 4am cravings for peanut butter pickles (or anything for that matter), I never got swollen feet or swollen anything. I didn't have emotional roller coaster rides. My back didn't hurt and I didn't really need to wear maternity clothes either (I just stuck to leggings). Guess I missed out on all the pregnancy fun.
If it wasn't for my forever growing belly (which was hugeeee by my due date, I would probably have forgotten that I was pregnant most the time.
I worked up until I delivered (ok, I had a desk job, so it really isn't all that complicated)
Now while my pregnancy itself wasn't complicated, I did feel rather alone. Major life events really show people's true colors, and can help you see who your real friends are, and who can and cannot be counted on.
Sadly, majority of my "friends" totally forgot that I existed, or so it seemed to me (still seems that way to be honest). The saddest thing that I learned while pregnant is that I do not have one single female friend who I can call a best friend or whom I am really close to. This actually rather upset me, and was the only time I was really emotional. I learned this because of my baby shower. Generally, when you get pregnant, your friend(s) throw you a baby shower. Not one single person offered to throw me a shower (so I did it myself, with the help of a select few friends whom I am extremely thankful for). I guess I am to blame tho, because I never got close enough (apparently) with any of my "friends." My baby shower was honestly the most stressful thing about my pregnancy (I'll make a separate post about that).
I feel like I am going off on a tangent here,. I just want to say that I do feel rather lonely. It is very hard to accept the fact that I am almost 23 and do not have a single person to turn to for anything and everything. I really need/want a best friend, a friend for life, a friend to be there for me through everything, a friend to just come over and hang out or go out with.......
I can really relate sweetheart. So much of what you shared I could have written. I too am very lonely and just want at least one friend that isn't all about themselves and never lets me say 2 words. I'd love to stay in touch. Hugs. You're not alone.
ReplyDeleteThough I cannot be a friend you can spend time with, I can definitely be a great facebook friend. Anytime you need to talk, I will gladly listen!
DeleteI also had an incredibly easy pregnancy - so much so that I'm scared to do it again in case I'd be pushing my luck.
ReplyDeleteI see your next post is about mum groups. I spend a lot more time online now and really enjoy the support.
The friends you make from now on will be understanding of your situation, as they'll have lived it. The old friends who weren't will learn when they have kids. And the ones who stick around, parents or not, are worth their weight in gold!